Virginia man’s decision to throw thousands of pennies on his ex-wife’s lawn as his last child support payment turns into a positive change, thanks to the generous actions of the wife and daughter teenage girl.
Avery Sanford opened up about the bad experience this week, telling local station WTVR that she had just turned 18 when her father hired a trailer last month to make her final payment, in the form of more than 80,000 pennies, to her and her mother. house to throw in front of their garden.
“It’s really hurtful and damaging to your kids when you do things like that,” Sanford told the Richmond-based station of his action. “And it doesn’t matter how old your kids are, whether they’re a young child or an adult. Your parents’ actions will always have an effect on you.
Although her father’s behavior did not match, which she said was giving everything to a local domestic violence shelter, ultimately turning a sad situation into a positive one.
“It’s just amazing,” Cathy Easter, executive director of Safe Harbor in Richmond, told HuffPost on Thursday of the donation.
Easter said Safe Harbor received around $ 850 from the teenager and her mother, but once word of their experience spread, others also began to reach out and donate in line. As of Thursday, the organization has received nearly $ 5,000 on behalf of the women.
“A friend of theirs matched the exact amount and then other people started donating in their honor,” Easter said. “In the line of the memo, they say they are doing this in honor of Avery and his mother.”
For Safe Harbor, which helps victims of domestic violence, sexual violence and human trafficking, Easter said the donations could not have come at a more critical time.
“During the pandemic, incidents of domestic violence increased, people who were abused, especially from the start, were trapped in their homes with their abusers and could not leave,” she said. “Since the restrictions started to lift, it’s like a tsunami wave of people asking for help at a time when federal funding has been cut, so this gift to us has been incredible.”
Easter also expressed his astonishment at the ability of mother and daughter to adopt a positive attitude in the face of such hostility.
“I think of Avery and his mother who went through this really terrible and degrading experience and turned it into something positive,” she said. “For me, it’s just a beautiful thing that they did together as a mother and daughter.”
Sanford’s father told WTVR off-camera his emotions got the better of him and the last thing he wanted to do was create a wedge between himself and his daughter.
The teenager said she had not spoken with her father in years and expressed disappointment at his actions. Yet, she said, “you can learn a lesson from this.”
Her mother contacted the Henrico County police and filed a report on the incident. A representative from the police division confirmed the incident to HuffPost, but said no charges were filed.
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