Lost of us has spent the past 15 months fantasizing about all the amazing things we can do once the pandemic marathon is over. Maybe we even made tentative plans to finally get together with too many people to count. But the truth is, you may have filled your plate with more post-pandemic plans than you can digest, especially if you’ve hosted a bunch of social gatherings that sound great in theory, but you don’t. probably won’t have time, maybe never.
While things are looking good in the short term (the pandemic is on the decline here in the United States, although that’s a different story overall), you need to be realistic with yourself about what opportunity you’ll really have to. see the people who really matter to you and whether it is worth taking the time to see those who don’t matter as much.
Post-pandemic social commitments have spiraled out of control
Look, you’re popular, and it’s not your fault. All of us longed for a return to normal before being vaccinated, are ready to resume our life with enthusiasm after receiving our jabs. If you’ve been planning on seeing more people than what seems reasonable right now, you’re going to have to be a little ruthless.
Reduce your social commitments by 20%
Make an honest list of everyone you’ve had plans with. This can include friends, family, acquaintances, networking friends, coworkers, old flames, anyone. Then do your best to reduce the number of people on it by 20%.
Don’t feel bad about excluding people from your list of commitments; there’s a good chance they’re probably doing the same to other people, if not to you. Maybe you are doing them the same favor.
Spread your social gatherings throughout the year
Give yourself room to breathe. If you’ve made tentative plans to have a drink or hike with anyone, perhaps put a few of the less urgent commitments on the back burner. We’ve had plenty of time to plan (or develop crippling social anxiety) over the past fifteen months indoors. To add a little more balance to the feeling of stepping back into the void, keep your calendar stretched out so you don’t get overwhelmed. It might seem odd to schedule a coffee date at the end of summer, but at least you’ll have it in the books.
You can still scale
Often, making plans is just a symptom of boredom. Lots of people do it because getting together sounds like a good idea, and do it even when you don’t quite feel it is a nice gesture. But you should assess the viability of these plans: were they made because both parties just love the idea of an appointment? Are they the kind of plans that would have stalled in the text messaging phase in the pre-pandemic era? So don’t let the added pressures of finally being vaccinated make a difference.
To that end, once you’ve determined which plans (or even which relationships) are least likely to pay off, don’t go out of your way to follow up. This is not disrespecting the person (s) in question – I’m not saying you should ignore people’s attempts to contact you. If someone is particularly determined to update your plans, of course, put the date on your stretched calendar. (Dropping it on the road is perfectly fine, too.) But if they don’t follow up, there’s no reason to feel pressured either.
Even if you are hungry for human contact, there is no reason to turn your return to society into a mad rush to see everyone you haven’t seen since March 2020, especially the people you have. been happy to avoid.