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Elon Musk’s ex-wife described ‘alpha’ behavior ‘making her disposable’ in essay

An essay written by Elon Musk’s first wife during their messy divorce proceedings drew attention this week after a flight attendant accused the billionaire of exposing himself while traveling on a private jet.

Justine Musk, mother of the SpaceX executive’s five sons, wrote the essay in 2010 for Marie Claire magazine, describing how the couple’s love story eventually turned into a relationship she didn’t recognize herself in.

She described “warning signs,” even on their wedding night.

“As we were dancing at our wedding reception, Elon said to me, ‘I’m the alpha in this relationship,'” Ms. Musk wrote. postnuptial agreement, but over time I learned that he was serious. He had grown up in South Africa’s male-dominated culture, and the drive to compete and dominate that had made him so successful in business did not magically die out when he returned home.

“That, and the vast economic imbalance between us, meant that in the months after we got married, a certain momentum began to set in. Elon’s judgment trumped mine, and he constantly noticed the faults he found in me. “I am your wife”, I told him several times, “not your employee”.

“‘If you were my employee,’ he said just as often, ‘I’d fire you.'”

Billionaire Elon Musk vehemently denies sexual misconduct allegations

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The essay started circulating online again this week after Initiated reported that the Tesla executive was accused in 2016 of exposing himself to a flight attendant, rubbing her leg without her consent and offering to buy her a horse if she gave him a massage erotic.

The report alleged that he paid $250,000 to settle the sexual misconduct complaint.

He denied the allegations, calling them “totally false” and “politically motivated”.

The report, however, led to more attention being paid to his personal life and attitude rather than his business ventures – after headlines of the Twitter takeover dominated the news for weeks.

In her essay, his ex-wife described Mr Musk trying to convince her to dye her hair ever blonder as they traveled the world and associated with the rich and famous. The relationship was strained after the loss of their first son, Nevada, to SIDS; the couple wept differently, she explained. Ms Musk then gave birth to twins and triplets in quick succession.

“Nevada’s death sent me into an inner spiral of depression and distraction that would last for years and continue today if one of our nannies had not noticed that I was struggling,” she wrote. in the essay, in which she also describes her then-husband as “obsessed” with his work and even distracted at home.

At the nanny’s suggestion, Ms Musk wrote, she started therapy and “began to gain perspective on what had become of my life”.

Ms Musk, who met her billionaire ex when they were both university students in Canada, has joint custody of five sons with the SpaceX founder

(Twitter/Justine Musk)

She continued in the essay, “I barely recognized myself. I had become a trophy wife – and I sucked. I wasn’t detail-oriented enough to maintain a perfect home or be a perfect hostess. I could no longer hide my boredom when the men were talking and the women were smiling and listening. I wasn’t interested in Botox, makeup, or reducing the appearance of my C-section scars. »

In tweets this month, Ms Musk addresses dysfunctional relationships in language that reflects her 12-year trial.

On May 5, on the platform her ex-husband plans to revamp, she wrote, “Abusive relationships aren’t defined by whether or not the abused is a ‘perfect victim’ — or sympathetic — – but on a pre-existing + structural structure. power imbalance that places one partner in a superior position to the other. This point is not stressed enough.

The next day, she tweeted, “An abusive relationship involves any system in place that *allows* one partner to abuse the power they have over the other to systematically control that person over time. It’s not just two people yelling at each other.

She quickly followed that up with, “A relationship can be toxic without being abusive.”

While Mr Musk follows exes Grimes and Talulah Riley on Twitter, he does not follow his first wife.

He filed for divorce after what Ms Musk described as just three counseling sessions, and the process took years.

Mr Musk has publicly disputed some of his ex-wife’s written claims, addressing them firsthand in 2010 – oddly enough – Initiatedthe same outlet that published the recent sexual misconduct allegations.

In an article titled “Correcting The Record About My Divorce,” he attempted to clarify details such as the timing of his relationship with his second wife, actor Talulah Riley, and the financial aspects of the divorce settlement.

Justine Musk, 49, was the Tesla CEO’s first wife

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“According to the marriage agreement, Justine would receive approximately $20 million after taxes, half in the form of a house and the other half in alimony,” he wrote in July 2010. “Before the divorce trial she lost in early May, I had offered him more than double that number as a settlement, which equates to roughly $80 million in pre-tax income, I also said if there was cause worthy that she deemed worthy of consideration, I would be happy to donate to them on her behalf.Justine said no to the offer and continued to insist on owning Tesla and SpaceX.

He did, however, insist that Ms. Musk told him she would say yes to a marriage proposal “shortly after selling my first company, Zip2, to Compaq, and later co-founding PayPal”, writing that ” friends and family have advised me to separate, whether the marriage is for love or for money”.

Regardless of the potshots the exes have taken over the years, however, the couple continue to share custody. Ms Musk also wrote in her Marie Claire test that she did not regret the marriage.

“I went through some anger, both at Elon for making me so disposable, and at myself for buying a fairy tale when I should have known better,” she wrote. . “But I will always respect the brilliant and visionary person that he is.”


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